12 life lessons I learned in 12 months
While 2016 is well behind us realising the things you have learned are key to improving yourself, building on your wealth of knowledge and growing as an individual. Being able to reflect and spend time working on what has worked, what hasn’t worked and how things can get better is crucial. Which is why I created this post on 12 things Ive learned in 12 months.
No doubt we would have all learned lessons over the course of 2016, and will continue to do so in 2017 and years to come. Lessons are an important part of our growth and who we are because it affects how we deal with things, the decisions we make and our thought patterns. Its important not to shy away from reflection. Reflection of our friendships, relationships, working life and personal life. If you want to strive to be better and improve then reflection is crucial. Simply because, you need to know what works, what didn’t work, how things could improve and what you can do next time.
If there is a goal that you didn’t reach last month or a project you couldn’t finish., Without stepping outside of your comfort zone and really evaluating, we simply end back at square one.. I also believe that you should evaluate while you are in the process of achieving your goals. You may have a goal to reach 5000 page views before the end of February so rather than wait until the end of the month to review whether you reached your goal or not, review and evaluate mid-month, bi-weekly reviews or even weekly depending on what your goal is.
Self evaluate your discipline, your growth and productivity to provide better value to your own life and those around you. You want to create positivity, build a happy and wealthy life and that involves self evaluation. This will help to increase the likelihood of achieving your goals and reduce the margin for error.
Every lesson is a chance for you to not only grow but to share your knowledge and experience with others so that we can all build and be great. These may be life lessons you have already learned or something you may yet not have experienced, either way, I am sharing my knowledge and experiences with you so that hopefully you can learn something too.
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12 life lessons I’ve learned in 12 months
If you think you arent compatible with someone, dont force it
How many times have you gotten to know someone, seen warning signs and continued to maintain the relationship or friendship? You realise that they probably aren’t worth your time but you believe things might improve or things will change. Its easy to give someone the benefit of the doubt but if you are seeing signs and compromising your values early on, chances are things won’t change. Treat it as no love lost and move on. There is always something better so don’t feel like you are missing out.
People come and go
This touches on the points raised in no.1. Whether it’s a friendship or relationship there is always a chance to meet new people. Some friendships you held 10 years ago or in school faded even when you were so sure that it would last for years to come. As you grow and get older your views change, people change and the goal posts shift. People move on and things always get better over time so its better to live and let live instead of holding on to things which aren’t meant to be.
If people put their best interests first, why shouldn’t you
A huge part of building connections with others is being supportive, helpful and all round being their for others when they need you and visa versa. However if you find that other people are too busy setting themselves up for success or focusing on themselves without really investing time or effort in you, one ,you should consider hat purpose do I really serve in this persons life and two, why aren’t I putting myself first too? That’s not to say you have to be selfish in a negative way without being considerate to others but you have to value your own wants and needs, especially when others are putting their interests before yours.
No matter how bad things get, youll get through it
We all have our own personal struggles and our own life lessons which resonate with us more than others. Its not always straight forward or easy to appreciate when you’re going through something that things will get better. With that being said, in your own way and in your own time it is possible to get through anything that life brings you.
Never apologise for who you are
Its easy to convince yourself that if you don’t possess certain characteristics, whether that be personality traits or physical features that you’ll never be good enough or match society’s expectations or values. The point is everyone is different. What makes people successful or stand out is their own personal brand which is essentially their core values and what they believe in, which is going to be different to everyone else. Own your differences , be honest and keep it real!
Accept that there will be things you cannot change
No matter how hard you work or all the effort you put into something, its not always possible to change things. We often put conditions on ourselves because we think we are the problem and that isn’t always the case. You might need to change your mindset and the way you see things. Some things cannot be changed simply because they aren’t meant to be and you just have to let it go.
Always strive for happiness
The importance of seeking happiness changes your mindset completely. While you can’t always avoid having a bad day or encountering some negativity, how you manage to deal with things will improve your mentality 10 fold. When you strive for happiness and turn negatives into a positive, you notice the difference in how you approach things.
You can never be 100% prepared for anything, so just go for it
We spend so much time trying to curate the perfect outcome or waiting until we are ready so that things will turn out exactly the way we want it to but that never actually happens. We wait for the right moment all time because we want the security of knowing that that we are fully prepared and everything will turn out fine. Waiting for the right moment could mean that things never get done, which then becomes a missed opportunity. Don’t wait around thinking that you can only take action when the time is right or when you feel like it. Accept that you cannot always guarantee your desired outcome and just go for it. Done is better than perfect. Besides, that’s part of the learning experience!
Dont underestimate yourself
As with number 8 you can never be 100% prepared for anything,you might always be trying to control every possible outcome because you’re worried or fearful thar you may get stuck or won’t know what to do. This is exactly why you shouldn’t under estimate yourself. Don’t be afraid of trying new things or experiences because you lack confidence in your ability to do something. Be bold enough to try things anyway without worrying what will or will not happen. When you actually try is when you realise what you are capable of.
Never feel guilty for saying no
I’ll be honest, I found it so hard to say no for years. It was a huge pain point for me simply because I didn’t want to let others down and come across like a disappointment or that I was being selfish. But heres the thing. What I learned about saying no is that, you know your boundaries, you know what you are capable of without overworking yourself or putting yourself in a position that you don’t really want to be in.
I also noticed that others weren’t afraid to say no and it may me reconsider what I was really afraid of. What I also figured out was how to approach saying no without coming across like I was being rude or inconsiderate. If this is something you struggle with then think about why you have difficulties with saying no and how you can improve your channel of communication and your own way of thinking which makes saying no a lot easier.
Dont be afraid to ask
This goes along with number 10. We can sometimes be afraid of asking because we won’t like the answer or we will sound silly. But 1. If you don’t ask you don’t get and 2. There is no such thing as a silly question. If you want something sometimes it is a matter of simply asking.
Learn something new
I saved this life lesson for last because I think it is the most undervalued! We are constantly evolving and growing and as we get older many of us have long left education. Working, coming home and socialising occasionally. We don’t exercise ourselves our abilities to learn something new as frequently. Continually learning keeps your mind active and to develop new skills. That is why learning something new is really key to growing and all round being better.
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